Anyone who is in long-term relationship will tell you there is a rough period, and most people, when they are honest, will admit of doubt along the way. But sometimes we do not know how to judge, “Just how bad is it?” Here is a list of symptoms that suggest a relationship in trouble. More symptoms you think are right for you and / or your partner, your relationship is more likely to need help. If you have 3-5 checked, you may need a tune-up. More than five, it’s time to consider a more serious therapy, either alone or with your partner, or in some cases, both.

Below this list is the one, “Signs of severe relationship problems.”

You feel worse around your partner than you do when you are alone.

Your self-esteem dropped because you have together.

Either you or your spouse, or both of you, not honest with each other.

You often feel hurt by how you treated by your partner, not a good feeling when you’re together.

You often complain about your relationships with others.

Either or both of you have been often critical of each other.

You are not able to approach your partner with your concerns in a way that makes sense, without exploding in anger or using a passive-aggressive (sarcastic, outside but inside suit challenging) behavior. Or you expect that any confrontation would only result in an unproductive struggle with no change in the situation. You feel you have to walk on egg shells most of the time.

Most if not all of the problems that arise between you and remain unresolved, even when you try to sort them out together. Therefore, one or both of you often take a “why bother?” Attitudes about dealing with the problem. It differs from the “pick your battles,” because even on important issues remain unresolved and “go underground.”

You lose your enthusiasm about life, and has given up most of your hobbies, friends, or interests that are important to you before entering into a relationship. Instead you consumed about the difficulties you encounter in your relationship.

You no longer trust your partner. This one is tricky, because some of us have trust issues, and it is difficult to trust anyone. You may need help in exploring this with people who know you (and maybe your spouse) as well. Of course, sometimes doubts were justified.

The little things bother you about your relationship and you can not let them go.

You find yourself more interested in the external relations priorities of spending time together.

Your sex life has dwindled to very seldom or not at all, and at least one of you is happy about it.

One or both partners have become closer to others than with one another. This can be an emotional affair, or even be friends, relatives, parents, or even one of the kids. Clearly the most damaging is if there is an actual affair. Online relationships are just as damaging as if they were personally.

You find yourself back on behaviors that take you away from your partner is not likely to support a healthy lifestyle: drinking too much, spend too much time zoning out with electronics – computers, video games, TV, fled to your work; find more satisfaction in a single sex (pornography, escapist fantasy, etc.) than with your partner.

Did you answer Yes to three or more symptoms?

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Signs of Severe Relationship Problems

If you experience these symptoms, it is time to resolve it as quickly as possible. It is usually very difficult to overcome this problem alone, and get help, or in some cases come out, if one is tortured by the relationship, including children, are encouraged.

You afraid of your partner, because you have learned to expect furious response that comes with the name-calling, insults rude or abusive, or suitable angry.

You no longer talk to each other beyond the very basic needs of living space together.

One or both of you use indirect, passive-aggressive means to “get” the other, and you often have the feeling that you have pressed the stomach but do not know why.

You or your partner spend a night away from home without calling to let your partner know where they are or when they will return. A version of this lower, but still damaging the relationship, occurs when one or both partners often stay out partying with other people without their spouse until very late.

Any incidents of domestic violence, including throwing objects, pushing, hitting, kicking, biting, or physical aggression towards others. “Lesser” this version, but still very destructive, occurred by violence against pets, or threats of violence against living beings. Still of concern is when one or both partners are throwing things on the walls, break things at home, or damage to property.

Any event that threatens other pairs, indicating they will hurt you (or you will hurt them) directly or by hurting themselves. (Some of the veiled threat of suicide attempts to make her partner feel so guilty that they become afraid to say or do anything that might interfere with their partners, such as leave the relationship.)

One or both partners use and abuse of drugs, including alcohol, on a regular basis, to the extent that it interferes with the relationship. This is an individual problem and not might be an indication that the relationship is in trouble – the person in trouble, and they drink / use will negatively affect the relationship.

One or both partners use their children to hurt their partner, or use them to send messages back and forth to their partner.

When couples have a lot of hardship in their lives, people might wonder why they live together? But there are many ways couples find it locked, especially because the children and finances. Sometimes there is a real threat that if one partner makes all moved away, another couple will actually try to harm them in some way. This is a very abusive situations that are beyond the need for therapy, and couples may need to use local resources of a safe house from domestic violence.